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Topic: Top Ten Excuses for Not Wearing Hijab (Read 600 times)
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Among the pictures that point to the distance of society from the right path and that
make clear the level of its deviation and separation from it is the open spread of women
not just uncovering their faces but enhancing and making a display of their beauty. We
find that this is manifested regretfully, in Islamic (Muslim) society despite that Islamic
clothing is also widespread. So then, what are the reasons that have led to this
We put this question to a varied group of women from whom we derived ten major
excuses and upon examination and scrutiny, the frailty of the excuses became evident to us.
Stay with us dear Muslim sister in these few lines so that we can know through them the
reasons for turning away from the hijaab and then discuss each.
Excuse One: I’m not yet convinced (of the necessity) of hijaab.
We then ask this sister two questions.
1: Is she truly convinced of the correctness of the religion of Islam? the natural
answer is: Yes she is convinced for she responds “Laa ilaaha illallah!” (There is no god
but Allah), meaning she is convinced of the aqeedah, and then she says: “Muhammadun
rasoolullah!” (Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah), meaning by that that she is convinced of its
legislation or law (Sharee’ah). Therefore, she is convinced of Islam as a belief system
and a law by which one governs and rules their life.
2: Is the hijaab then a part of Islamic Law (Sharee’ah) and an obligation? If this
sister is honest and sincere in her intention and has looked into the issue as one who
truly wants to know the truth her answer could only be: Yes. For Allah ta’aala, Whose deity
(Uloohiyyah) she believes in has commanded wearing hijaab in His Book (Al-Qur’an) and the
noble Prophet (alayhe salaat wa salaam) whose message she believes in has commanded
wearing the hijaab in his Sunnah. In summary: If this sister is convinced of Islam, how then
can she not be convinced of its orders?
Excuse Two: I am convinced of Islamic dress but my mother prevents me from wearing it and
if I disobey her I will go to the Fire.
The one who has answered this excuse is the most noble of Allah’s creation, the
messenger of Allah (SAWS) in concise and comprehensive words of wisdom: “There is no obedience
to the created in the disobedience of Allah.” [Ahmad]
The status of parents in Islam, especially the mother, is a high and elevated one.
Indeed Allah ta’aala has combined it with the greatest of matters, worshipping Him and His
Tawheed, in many aayaat. He stated:
“Worship Allah and join none with Him and do good to parents.” [Soorah An-Nisaa 4: 36].
Obedience to parents is not limited except in one aspect, and that is if they order to
disobedience of Allah. Allah said:“But if they strive with you to make you join in worship
with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not.” [Soorah Luqmaan
The lack of obedience to them in sinfulness does not prevent being good to them and
kind treatment of them. Allah said afterward in the same aayah: But behave with them world
kindly. In summary: How can you obey your mother and disobey Allah Who created you and
Excuse Three: My position does not allow me to substitute my dress for Islamic dress.
This sister is either one or the other of two types: She is sincere and honest, or
she is a slippery liar who desires to make a showy display of her “hijaab” clamoring with
colors to be “in line with the times” and expensive”. We will begin with an answer to the
honest and sincere sister. Are you unaware my dear sister, that it is not permissible for
the Muslim woman to leave her home in any instance unless her clothing meets the
conditions of Islamic hijaab (Hijaab shar’ee) and it is a duty of every Muslim woman to know what
they are? If you have taken the time and effort to learn so many matters of this world
how then can you be neglectful of learning those matters which will save you from the
punishment of Allah and His anger death!!? Does Allah not say:
“Ask the people of remembrance (i.e. knowledgeable scholars) if you do not know.” [Soorah
An-Nahl 16: 43]
Learn therefore, the requirements of proper hijaab. If you must go out, then do not
do so without the correct hijaab, seeking the pleasure of Allah and the degradation of
Shaitaan. That is because the corruption brought about by your going out adorned and
“beautified” is far greater than the matter which you deem necessary to go out for.
My dear sister if you are really truthful in your intention and correctly determined
you will find a thousands hands of good assisting you and Allah will make the matter easy
for you! Is He not the One Who says:
“And whoever fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out
(from every difficulty) and He will provide him from sources he never could imagine.”
[Soorah At-Talaaq 65:2-3]
With regards to the ‘slippery’ one we say: Honour and position is something
determined by Allah ta’aala and it is not due to embellishment of clothing and show of colors and
keeping up with the trendsetters. It is rather due to obedience to Allah and His
Messenger (SAWS) and holding to the pure law of Allah and correct Islamic hijaab. Listen to the
words of Allah: “Indeed, the most honourable amongst you are those who are the most
pious.” [Soorah Al-Hujraat 49: 35]. In summary: Do things in the way of seeking Allah’s
pleasure and entering His Jannah and give less value to the high priced and costly objects and
wealth of this word.
Excuse Four: It is so very hot in my country and I can’t stand it. How could I take it if
I wore the hijaab?
Allah gives an example by saying: “Say: The Fire of hell is more intense in heat if
they only understand.” [Soorah At-Taubah 9:81]. How can you compare the heat of your land
to the heat of the Hellfire? Know, my sister, that Shaitaan as trapped you in one of his
feeble ropes to drag you from the heat of this world to the heat of the Hellfire. Free
yourself from his net and view the heat of the sun as a favor and not an affliction
especially in that it reminds you of the intensity of the punishment of Allah which is many
times greater than the heat you now feel. Return to the order of Allah and sacrifice this
worldly comfort in the way of following the path of salvation from the Hellfire about which
Allah says: “They will neither feel coolness nor have any drink except that of boiling
water and the discharge of dirty wounds.” [Soorah An-Naba’ 78: 24-25]. In summary: The
Jannah is surrounded by hardships and toil, while Hellfire is surrounded by temptations,
lusts and desires.
Excuse Five: I’m afraid that if I wear the hijaab I will put it off at another time
because I have seen so many others do so!!
To her I say: If everyone was to apply your logic then they would have left the Deen
in its entirety! They would have left off salaat because some would be afraid of leaving
it later. They would have left fasting in Ramadan because so many are afraid of not doing
it later…etc. Haven’t you seen how Shaitaan has trapped you in his snare again and
blocked you from guidance?
Allah ta’aala loves continuous obedience even if it be small or recommended. How
about something that is an absolute obligation like wearing hijaab?! The Prophet (SAWS) said:
“The most beloved deed with Allah is the consistent one though it be little.” Why haven’t
you sought out the causes leading those people to leave of the hijaab so that you can
avoid them and work to keep away from them? Why haven’t you sought out reasons and causes to
affirm truth and guidance until you can hold firm to them?
Among these causes is much supplication to Allah (du’aa) to make the heart firm upon
the Deen as did the Prophet (SAWS). Also is making salaat and having mindfulness of it as
Allah stated: “And seek help in patience and the prayer and truly it is extremely heavy
except for the true believers in Allah who obey Allah with full submission and believe in
His promise of Jannah and in His warnings (Al Khaashi’oon).” [Soorah Al-Baqarah 2:45]
Other causes to put one upon guidance and truth is adherence to the laws of Islam
and one of them is indeed wearing the hijaab. Allah said: “If they had done what they were
told, it would have been better for them and would have strengthened their faith.”
[Soorah Al-Baqarah 2: 66]. In summary: If you hold tight to the causes of guidance and taste
the sweetness of faith you will not neglect the orders of Allah after having held to them.
Excuse Six: If I wear the hijaab then nobody will marry me, so I’m going to leave it off
Any husband who desires that you be uncovered and adorned in public in defiance of
and in disobedience to Allah, is not a worthy husband in the first place. He is a husband
who has no feeling to protect what Allah has made inviolable, most notably yourself, and
he will not help you in any way to enter Al-Jannah or escape from the Hellfire. A home
which is founded upon disobedience to Allah and provocation of His anger is fitting that He
decrees misery and hardship for it in this life and in the Hereafter. As Allah stated:
“But whosoever, turns away from My reminder (i.e. neither believes in the Qur’an nor acts
upon its teachings) verily for him is a life of hardship and We shall raise him up blind
on the Day of Resurrection.” [Soorah TaHa 20: 124]
Marriage is a favor and blessing from Allah to whom He give whom He wills. How many
women who wear hijaab (mutahajibah) are in fact married while many who don’t aren’t? If
you were to say that ‘…my being made-up and uncovered is a means to reach a pure end,
namely marriage’, a pure goal or end is not attained through impure and corrupt means in
Islam. If the goal is honourable then it must necessarily be achieved by pure and clean
method. We say the rule in Islam is: the means are according to the rules of the intended
goals. In summary: There is no blessing in a marriage established upon sinfulness and
Excuse Seven: I don’t wear hijaab based on what Allah says: “And proclaim the grace of
your Rabb” [Soorah Ad-Dhuhaa 93: 11]. How can I cover what Allah has blessed me with of
silky soft hair and captivating beauty?!
So… this sister of ours adheres to the Book of Allah and its commands as long as they
coincide with her personal desires and understanding! She leaves behind those matters
when they don’t please her. If this was not the case, then why doesn’t she follow the aayah:
“And do not show off their adornment except only that which is apparent” [Soorah An-Noor
24: 31] and the statement of Allah: “Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of
the believers to draw their cloaks all over their bodies.” [Soorah Al-Ahzab 33:59]
With this statement my sister you have now made a Shari’ah (law) for yourself of what
Allah ta’aala has strictly forbidden, namely beautification (at-tabarruj) and uncovering
(as-sufoor), and the reason: Your lack of wanting to adhere to the order. The greatest
blessing or favor that Allah has bestowed upon us is that of Eemaan (faith) and hidaayah
(guidance) and among them is the Islamic hijaab. Why then do you not manifest and talk
about this greatest of blessings given to you? In summary: Is there a greater blessing and
favor upon the woman than guidance and hijaab?
Excuse Eight: I know that hijaab is obligatory (waajib), but I will wear it when Allah
guidance me to do so.
We ask this sister on what plans or steps she will undertake until she accepts this
divine guidance? We know that Allah has in His wisdom made a cause or means for
everything. That is why the sick take medicine to regain health, and the traveller rides a vehicle
or an animal to reach his destination, and other limitless examples.
Has this sister of ours seriously endeavored to seek true guidance and exerted the
proper means to get it such as: Supplicating Allah sincerely as He stated: “Guide us to the
Straight Path.” [Soorah Al-Faatihaa 1: 6]; Keeping company with the righteous good
sisters – for they are among the best to assist her to guidance and to continue to point her to
it until Allah guides her and increases her guidance and inspires her to further guidance
and taqwaa. She would then adhere to the orders of Allah and wear the hijaab that the
believing women are commanded to wear. In summary: If this sister was really serious about
seeking guidance she would have exerted herself by the proper means to get it.
Excuse Nine: It’s not time for that yet. I’m still too young for wearing hijaab. I’ll do
it when I get older and after I make Hajj ( Pilgrimage to Macca)!
The Angel of Death my sister, is visiting and waiting at your door for the order of
Allah ta’aala to open it on you at any moment in your life. Allah said: “When their term
comes, neither can they delay it nor can they advance it an hour (or a moment).” [Soorah
Death my sister doesn’t discriminate between the young or the old and it may come
while you are in this state of great sinfulness disobedience, fighting against the Lord of
Honour with your uncovering and shameless adornment. My sister, you should race to
obedience along with those others who race to answer the call of Allah tabaaraka wa ta’aala:
“Race with one another in hastening towards forgiveness from your Lord and Paradise the
width whereof is as the width of the heavens and the earth.” [Soorah Al-hadeed 57:21]
Sister, don’t forget Allah or He will forget you by turning His mercy away from you
in this life and the next. You are forgetting your own soul by not fulfilling the right or
your souls to obey Allah and proper worship of Him. Allah stated about the hypocrites
(Al-Munaafiqoon): “And be not like those who forgot Allah and He caused them to forget their
own selves.” [Soorah Al-Hashr 59: 19]
My sister wear the hijaab in your young age in opposition to the sinful deed because
Allah is intense in punishment and will ask you on the Day of Resurrection about your
youth and every moment of your life. In summary: Stop presuming some future expectation in
your life will indeed occur!! How can you guarantee your own life until tomorrow?
Excuse Ten: I’m afraid that if I wear Islamic clothing that I’ll be labeled as belonging
to some group or another and I hate partisanship.
My sister in Islam, there are only two parties in Islam, and they are both mentioned
by Allah Almighty in His Noble Book. The first party is the party of Allah (Hizbullah)
that He gives victory to because of their obedience to His commands and staying away from
what He has forbidden. The second party is the party of the accursed Shaitaan
(hizbush-Shaitan) which disobeys the Most Merciful and increase corruption in the earth. When you
hold tight to and adhere to the commands of Allah, and among them is wearing the hijaab –
you then become a part of the successful party of Allah. when you beautify and display your
charms you are riding in the boat of Shaitaan and his friends and partners from among the
hypocrites and the disbelievers and none worse could there be as friends.
Don’t you see how you are running from Allah and to the Shaitaan, trading filth for
good? Run instead my sister to Allah and follow His way: “So flee to Allah (from His
Torment to His mercy). Verily I (Muhammad) am a plain warner to you from Him.” [Soorah
Adh-Dhaariyaat 51: 50]. The hijaab is a high form of worship that is not subject to the opinions
of people and their orientation and choices because the one who legislated it is the Most
Wise Creator. In summary: In the way of seeking the pleasure of Allah and in hope of His
Mercy and success in His Jannah and throw the statements of the devils among people and
jinn against the wall! Hold tight to the legislation of Allah by your molars and follow
the example of the striving and knowledgeable Mothers of the Believers and the female
companions (radhiallahu anhum ajma’een).
Your body is on display in the market of Shaitan seducting the hearts of men. The
hairstyles, the tight clothing showing every detail of your figure, the short dresses
showing off your legs and feet, the showy, decorative and fragrant clothing all angers the
Merciful and pleases the Shaitaan. Every day that passes while you are in this condition,
distances you further from Allah and brings you closer to Shaitaan. Each day curses and
anger are directed toward you from the heavens until you repent. Every day brings you closer
to the grave and the Angel of Death is ready to capture your soul. “Everyone shall taste
death. And only on the Day of Resurrection shall you be paid your wages in full. And
whoever is removed away from the Hellfire and admitted to Al-Jannah, is indeed successful.
The life of this world is only the enjoyment of deception (a deceiving thing).” [Soorah
Aale ‘Imraan 3:185]
Get on the train of repentance my sister, before it passes by your station. Deeply
consider my sister, what is happening today before tomorrow comes. Think about it, my
sister – Now, before it is too late!
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Yet another article with such a harsh tone! What happened to educating each other and passing on the knowledge that we have with love and the true adab of teaching.
I mean 'a slippery liar' ??
Where is the patience, the love for fellow sisters in Islam, a little understanding!?! After all reading this article one would think that there is nothing so heinous in Islam as not wearing a hijab . Why do we talk to each other this way
Here are some tips for the brothers, I hope they take heed insha’Allah. Enjoy!
Ayesha writes "Whether it's Muslim scholars, brothers at the Muslim Students' Association (MSA), or the average Jameel on the street, Muslim men also have to deal with the stereotypes and misperceptions about women in Islam.
Sadly, a number of brothers make the problem worse without realizing it, instead of clarifying the issue. This is rarely, if ever, done intentionally. However, what's clear is that some guidelines are necessary for brothers when talking about the issue of women in Islam. Here are some suggested tips:
1. Let the sisters speak
No matter how well-spoken, eloquent or intelligent a brother is, the bottom line is this: he is not a Muslim woman.
That means no matter how much you, as a Muslim man tell a non-Muslim woman how wonderful hijab is, it will be harder for her to accept this because you have never worn Hijab and you are not a woman.
Whenever possible, have sisters answer questions pertaining to Islam and women.
2. Be careful of mixing up the ideal with the reality
One non-Muslim writer once remarked how when talking to Muslims about Islam compared to the West, Muslims take the ideal of Islam and compare it to the reality of the West.
The fact of the matter is there are very ugly realities when it comes to the treatment of women in many parts of the world, including the Muslim world. Muslims must recognize the reality of domestic violence in the community, even though Islamic ideals would never condone such ugly behavior.
3. Don't sacrifice speaking out against injustice in the name of protecting Islam's image
Tackle the issue and the image will take care of itself, advises Sr. Maryam, a convert to Islam based in Auckland. Don't fall into the tendency to ignore pressing issues for the sake of protecting Islam's reputation.
In other words, if someone brings up the issue of honor killing in Jordan, acknowledge the reality but make it clear that this is a sin and a crime in Islam and as a Muslim you condemn it. This in itself is enough. Trying to justify or make excuses for it or covering it up is not going to score image points for Islam.
4. Don't respond to unspoken accusations
A number of times, Muslims automatically start an apologetic tirade defending the status of women in Islam before a person has even said a word. Let the other person initiate questions, and answer calmly and confidently. You may be responding to an accusation that was never even in the person's mind in the first place.
5. Ask WHY
Do this before launching an apologetic tirade against any accusation. For instance, a man in Spain once approached a scholar, saying he felt Islam was a man's religion. Before rebutting him, the scholar asked him why he thought this way. The man replied that whenever he looked at mosques, he saw only men.
By knowing why, you can develop your answer accordingly, and tackle the issue head-on in an honest and direct way.
6. Agree with people as much as possible
Start off agreeing with a person. It will completely turn the tables on the discussion, as many people begin discussions on women in Islam assuming Muslims are completely against the notion of women's rights.
7. If you don't know something SAY SO
If a person tells you they're from X country you've never heard of and Muslim women are treated in a horrible fashion what can you say about it?
I have never heard of that, and I don't know are simple enough. Don't start apologizing, or denying that it happens. Tell the truth.
8. Don't be condescending
In Islam, looking down on a fellow human being is a sin, whether the person is a male or a female. Don't think you know all there is to know about women in Islam, and don't speak in this manner either. Allah does not love arrogance, and only Allah has full knowledge of all things.
9. Don't interrupt This is a problem in a number of cultures, men interrupting women and other men when they speak. Not only is this rude behavior, it takes away from your message. People are less likely to listen to you if you come across as a rude boorish individual. Don't do this to others, especially sisters.
10. Don't assume all Muslim sisters are the same
Just because your mum, who was born and brought up in a Muslim country, and has never had a problem with hijab does not mean that other Muslim sisters have the same experience.
Muslim sisters are as different as brothers, as are their experiences with issues like hijab.
11. Become more attuned to the new Muslim woman
Muslim sisters today are not the same as those of yesterday. Many Muslims sisters know more, and they prefer more interactive lectures as opposed to the passive style normally used. If you're giving a talk, be ready to have interjections from Muslim sisters. Welcome these, don't shun them.
12. Choose your words very carefully
If you're doing a presentation on women's issues in Islam or responding to a basic question, make sure to choose your words extremely carefully. Know the exact dictionary meaning, as well as the meaning in everyday usage. Words are extremely powerful, and they leave an imprint on the hearts and minds of people. You want that imprint to be positive, so be careful.
13. Actions speak louder than words
You can speak beautifully about women in Islam on behalf of the Muslim Students' Association (MSA), but if throughout the year, sisters have been denied access to the prayer room, or the right to participate in decision-making in the MSA, then think of how silly your talk is. Make sure your personal and organizational behavior falls in line with your words.
14. Don't stereotype all Western women
Table dancers or cheerleaders is how one Muslim sister described the way Muslims tend to stereotype all Western women. Let's not forget: we hate it when Muslim women are stereotyped as oppressed, so we should not be doing the same to others.
And lest we forget, a growing number of Western women are becoming our Muslim sisters, and very practicing ones at that.
15. Seek women's perspective on issues You know mum, who loves you so much and makes your dinner? She's a woman. Your sister in school? She's a woman. If you're blessed to be surrounded by practicing Muslim sisters in your home, take advantage of this by seeking their views on issues like hijab, domestic violence, community participation, and media stereotypes. There's nothing like hearing the truth presented by those who truly live it."
"You talk about loving God while you disobey Him; I swear by my life that this is something very strange. If you were truthful in your love, you would obey Him, for a lover obeys whom he loves." (Rabi`a al-Adawiyya)