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|Can a Woman be married for her beauty ?|
|09/10/01 at 12:57:34|
|Here is a answer from a respected scholar from Pakistan - |
Mufti Taqi Usmani
Q. "Some people insist that a Muslim, while selecting a woman for
marriage should not pay any attention to her physical or facial
appearance. He should only see whether she is a religious woman or not.
In this respect a Hadith is often referred to, wherein the Holy
Prophet (S.A.W.) is reported to have said,
"A woman is married either for her beauty or for her wealth or
for her religious behavior. So you must try to choose the woman
committed to her religion."
They argue that the considerations of beauty and wealth have
been condemned in this Hadith, while the consideration of religion has
been confirmed and stressed upon.
Please explain whether this Hadith is authentic and whether the
above mentioned point of view is correct according to this Hadith.
A. The Hadith is authentic, but it does not mean that, when deciding
to marry a woman, her physical appearance cannot be taken into
consideration at all. The purpose of the Hadith is that it should not be the
Instead, her religious attitude should be given due importance.
If a woman is very attractive in her appearance, but she does not care
for her religious obligations or has a rebellious attitude towards
them, she should not be preferred to a less attractive woman whose
commitment to Islam is evident and who observes her religious obligations with
sincerity and devotion.
However, if there are two woman, both equally commited to Islam
and equally observing the imperatives of Shariah, then,there is no bar
on a Muslim if he prefers a woman who seems to him more attractive than
In fact, one of the basic objectives of marriage, according to
Islamic teachings, is that the spouses may run a chaste life and may
fulfil their sexual needs with as much satisfaction as may help them
refrain from indulging in an unlawful activity. This objective cannot be
achived unless they like each other, both in their appearance and in
their inner qualities. That is why the spouses have been advised to see
each other before entring into the pledge of marriage. The Holy Prophet
(S.A.W.) not only allowed one to see the woman whom he wants to marry but
emphatically recommended it for the Muslims. One of his blessed
companions once told him that he had resolved to marry a woman from the Ansar.
The Holy Prophet (S.A.W.) asked him if he had seen that woman. When the
person replied in the negative, the Holy Prophet (S.A.W.) said to him:
"See her, it will help create a better union between you"
It is obvious that merely seeing a woman cannot reveal anything
about her except physical appearance. It is, therefore, evident that
the appearance of a woman can be a valid consideration when deciding to
merry her. Had it been prohibited to marry a woman for her beauty (of
course, in addition to her inner qualities), it would have been pointless
to see her before marriage.
The correct position, therefore, is that the appearance of a
woman is one of the valid considerations which may be kept in mind when
deciding to merry her. But it should not be the only consideration, nor
should it be.
|Re: Can a Woman be married for her beauty ?|
|09/10/01 at 16:43:54|
it is correct that the 3 catagories be looked at when choosing a spouse.
some give more weight to one, then to the other. although Religion should be foremost.
beauty is within your own perception of it. for ex. between two sisters,you may find one more attractive then the other,this is your perception,another may not think so.
the nur(light)(beauty)that comes from her will be recognizable to her partner.and that partner will be the one prescribed for her by ALLAH swt. so why worry
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