Madinat al-Muslimeen Islamic Message Board
|08/20/01 at 17:52:44|
|Bismillah and salam,|
My brother in Islam,
I have read a few of your posts always with the angry face and i don't fully understand your problems ofcourse but I must tell you that it seems apparent to me that your attitude is not helping you situation very much.
Our deen has given us more constructive ways to cope with our ibitila'at (tests) We are judged on how well we are patient and do the right thing.
From another post I understood you were upset that another muslim gave the advice to belittle the wrongs of others but not to make your own mistakes big in your eyes. I think that is a perfectly sound advice brother. It was practiced by the tabi'een as well. Omar who was given glad tidings for jannah, used to say if i heard that all went to heaven except for one person i would think it is me.
Perhaps some muslims have made mistakes towards you and called you a yahoodi or saying you defame a site or whatever what good is it to feel sorry for yourself and not turn the whole situation into an opportunity to get close to Allah? If you can't find it in your heart to forgive them, to make excuse for them, to blame your own self (like the hadeeth suggests). Then just be patient and don't let it affect your health and your whole life, use prayer and fasting to clear your head and ask for guidance.
Sometimes it is good to let things out. but i worry when most of what you trying to say is around these negative event in your life. I feel it is unfortunate that some people behave badly to you and no one supported you, but brother there are so many worse things that can happen to a person. think about it...you were at your parents house when you wrote tthat....not everyone can say they have that simple blessing even.
I don't know if i did the right thing by posting this, i just would like to see you rise above this and occupy yourself and energy into more positive things insha'Allah.
|08/21/01 at 16:31:59|
|Assalaamu alaikum wa rahmatullah|
Has anyone ever heard of this hadith? †I think it's pretty well known, had found the collector and isnad at one point, but lost it again.
In any case, I was reminded of it. †Bear with me, I haven't remembered all of the details, it seems. †And it's not aimed at our brother Isra, I think it applies to most Muslims.
There was a sahaabah (let's call him X), a famous one who I can't think of right now, who along with some other companions, was sitting around the Prophet (s). †The Prophet (s) pointed out a man who had walked by and said, There is a man (Y) who will enter Jannah/is a dweller of Paradise (can't recall the wording, but you get the point). † So X decided to follow Y, to see what made him so special. †
X knocked on Y's door one night, asking Y to allow him to stay with him for the night (giving him the excuse that he had family problems or something). †So he went to work observing Y in any way he could. †X saw that Y had not been fasting that day, while X had. †X noticed that Y did not get up extra early to do more tahajjud than X did (I think X did more than Y that night). †Perplexed, the next morning, X broke it down to Y as to why he was really there: to check him out, to see what made him so special as to be pointed out by the Prophet (s) as a dweller of Paradise. †
Y thought for a moment and finally came up with an answer. †He said something to the affect of: †As you saw, I don't engage in too many extra/nawaafil acts of prayer or fasting...but every night, before my head hits that pillow, I forgive everyone who has ever wronged me, or betrayed me, or who I'm angry with. †
So basically, Y went to bed every night without any ill-will towards his fellow brothers/sisters, erasing anything negative towards someone else from his heart, although they may have wronged Y.
Point: We all have to work on this, I remind myself first. †Everyone is tested in different ways, and everyone has their own faults and good points. †Although we may have been wronged (we all have, to some extent or another), we still shouldn't point out anyone else's wrongs (unless it's of some benefit, and the scholars have given us times when it is allowed). †As Muslims, we should help each other out, I agree, but we should only expect real help from Allah. †
Prophet Yusuf (a) once said: "I only complain of my grief and sorrow to All‚h..." (12:86).
I hope you are in better health, insha'Allah. †And if anyone knows where this hadith came from, that would be grrreat.
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