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|Question about Ex-Wife|
|04/17/01 at 12:56:54|
|Asalam Alaikum Brothers and Sisters|
I have recently gotten into an argument with my ex-wife about the proper way to bring up our children.
I have custody of our children, and that in itself is cause enough for argument between us. But recently I brought it to her attention that I plan our raising the girls as Muslimah. She became very angry with me, saying that she wants the girls raised in a christian home. The argument got quite detailed about the differences in the way children are raised.
On to my question.
At the end of our conversation I invited her to go to her local mosque and talk with some of the sisters there. I know that she will not do this. So I was considering inviting her to check out this web site. The sisters section has some wonderful subjects that are quite relevant to the raising of our girls(I have no sons). I know that she would probably visit the site.
Is this considered bad that I would talk with her about such things?
I know that when the girls go and visit her she will try to fill their heads with anti-Islamic messages. She is still very bitter against the Muslim people in general for the bad treatment she received from her first husband who is a Muslim. I just want to make sure that she is aware of how I am raising the girls, and that she will respect that when, or if, she ever gets visitation rights.
What should I do?
Any help would be greatly appreciated.
May Allah bless and protect you all.
|Re: Question about Ex-Wife|
|04/17/01 at 21:53:39|
usamah it would be better if you could get her to meet some good sisters in your community who have children. she would realize how well her children will be brought up if they're brought up as muslims.
a woman here who is not muslim called me up once and said she really wanted her son to grow up muslim. she said to me, not because i particularly believe in islam, but i want my son to grow up with the same values and moralness my husband has. i was amazed.. ma'shallah she recognized how islam teaches children, honor and honesty and values and she wanted her child to grow up with that.
maybe if you don't push your wife about "islam" in general but start out with saying you want them to be raised with "good values" and "teaching them, etc". and just talk about how in islam it teaches them belief in God and that it's wrong to take drugs, or drink or have pre-marital relations etc... all the stuff every parent wishes they could forbid their child from doing!!
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