Madinat al-Muslimeen Islamic Message Board
|Where are you comeing from?.....|
|03/23/01 at 02:47:56|
|Assalamu Alaikum to all,|
I just have to write this message and hope for some feedback.
There is a huge concern today for our muslim youth in this country. Many say we are loseing them.
However on this board I read your messages and most of you are young students and I just am completely amazed at your strength, and knowldedge and desire for Islam.
It is so encourageing and I can not begin to tell you as a mother how I feel when I see your passion for Islam.
I would like to hear how you all were raised and taught and what made you stay true to your beliefs. There are so many temptations and so many parts of this soicety that want to pull us away from our bleifs.
Please share with me and let gain some insight on raising my children to feel this way as they grow up .
May Allah reward you for your desire and your strength.
|Re: Where are you comeing from?.....|
|03/25/01 at 11:46:17|
|Asalaamu Alaikum ;-)|
Since middle age in Islam starts at 40, I thought I'd sneak into this thread ;-)
[quote]Please share with me and let me gain some insight on raising my children to feel this way (passion) as they grow up [/quote]
Sheesh is this a question and a half ;-)
So many ways to answer this question but let me start off by saying that as a parent, I would guess you have to accept that no matter how much you may try and do, it is Allah [swt] who eventually will guide your children and hence making du'a for them is probably *the* most effective thing you can do for them.
I mean how many of us know (or have heard) of children of pious parents going astray. An old saying in my family goes something like "The water follows the river" (yeah it loses something in the translation) but the conveyed meaning is that if the parents are sound then so will the children. Unfortunately this is sometimes not the case, hence the need for du'a.
As for what can be practically done, my own opnion is you have to give them the proper environment to grow up in.
This includes a variety of things from teaching them how to dress properly at an early age, providing them with the best education possible, answering their questions about the secular environment they live in and how Islam differs in its view etc etc etc
I think the danger in "losing them", as you call it Sister, is because they are pulled into Western society and are then unable to decipher which is good, which is bad and how they should act from an Islamic perspective. Hence education is key.
Anyway only my views and opinions. It would be nice to hear from some of our Madina mothers and fathers (do we have any?) as to what they think the toughest part of raising their children is.
Oh go on, give us wannabe parents on this board the benefit of your wisdom ;-)
|Re: Where are you comeing from?.....|
|03/26/01 at 17:51:25|
I agree with Br.Khalid.
From experience, I think du3a is probably the best thing you can do for your children, and then be patient. I know my parents made du3a for me, and alhamdulilah...I love them so much for it.
Speaking for myself, I can say that I have not always been a person with such a "desire for Islam" as you put it. So I guess I should mention that there can be blessing in hard times. From my own experience I can say that Islam looks sooooooooo beautiful when you come back :). You return with strength and passion, and insha-Allah, strong Iman. It is such an amazing journey. So if this type of situation does occur, do not ever give up on them, and never for one instant doubt that Allah is there and he may be protecting your child or children in ways that you can not see.
Know that your children are watching you, so practice what you preach.
Oh, and I think befriending your children is also really important. They should be able to turn to you when things get tough.
May Allah be with you and your family.
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