Madinat al-Muslimeen Islamic Message Board
|03/11/01 at 16:20:49|
|As-salamu alakium everyone,|
I'm not sure if this question has been mentioned before but if it did sorry for not keeping up. Anyways my quesiton is about Birthdays, what is the deal with birthdays in islam, do we celebrate them, do we recognize them but dont make a big deal about them? Can I get some authentic answer if possible and also I would like to know different opinions about the whole thing, how you have gotten around this issue. Thanks :)
|03/11/01 at 19:18:05|
|Check http://www.islam-qa.com/ and search for birthday to find a scholarly opinion. |
|03/12/01 at 05:40:59|
|Try this either|
|03/12/01 at 08:50:59|
This is advice for all the future parents reading this topic.
I made the mistake of celebrating my son's birthday - so he could get it out of his system, and to appease aunts, uncles and grandparents.
Yikes- now he is sad that we will not do it again.
I wish I had never done it in the first place.
May Allah swt forgive me and let you all learn from my mistake.
|03/13/01 at 15:11:56|
|This brings to mind an interesting delimma. |
I have two daughters and no wife. For the past 6 years (for the eldest) and 4 years (for the youngest) their birthdays have been a big deal for them. I recently converted to Islam, and have every intention of bringing my daughters up to be good Muslimah.
What should I do?
In the area of birthdays, my parents will still try and impose their views on me and my children, this incldes christmas too. How should this be handled?
|03/13/01 at 16:31:40|
|Asalaamu Alaikum ;-)|
[quote]In the area of birthdays, my parents will still try and impose their views on me and my children, this incldes christmas too. How should this be handled?[/quote]
My word that's tough
Having no children myself, I have no idea! But I wonder given what Sr Kathy posted if it isn't worthwhile biting the bullet and confronting the issue now once and for all?
Sure it's going to be tough but if your intention is pure, Allah [swt] will help you overcome the hardship.
Just an opinion, interesting to see what others think.
|03/13/01 at 17:15:27|
|as salaamu alaykum wa rahmatAllah,|
Kiwaku, Kathy, I think if you decide not to celebrate your children's birthdays, you should make Eid a *big* deal, have a party, give them gifts...
Last Eid here we took all the kids to Jeepers, a big indoor amusement park for kids, they had an awesome time :)
I think that your kids inshaAllah will have a better time adjusting if you give them an alternative to birthdays in which they can still have fun and get gifts...
|03/13/01 at 22:33:02|
|yeah... and you can tell them they'll have TWO Eids, not just one birthday! :)|
|03/13/01 at 23:54:39|
I agree with the emphasis on making Eid very big. You know I remember when I was a kid, the excitement of getting presents on Eid, even if it was something small. Heh then I remember my uncles got my sister and I this huge box full of toys, it was crazy.
Now Eid's are like hmmmmmmmmm, so if you have kids masha Allah, then definatly Eid with them :)
|03/16/01 at 20:44:49|
here's an idea..have em memorize like little sur'ahs and things like such, and celebrate THAT :) make that into like a HUGE deal :) especially if they r lil kiddies :) and of course..there's always the *EIDS* :) my 2 bits :) ma'salaam ;-D
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