From: Syeda Fatima Naqvi
Subject: Our du'as & Allah subhana wa ta'ala assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah everyone, insha'allah, may this email find you all happy and with strong iman, ameen.
I want to share something that Sheikh Muhammed Yaqoobi told us when we were covering the section on the situations in which it is recommended to say the prayer on the prophet, sallallahu alaihi wassalam, from the book Ash-shifa by Qadi Iyad.
This section was, in general, about how when you are making a du'a it is highly recommended that you do so in the following manner:
".....when one of you prays, he should begin with praise of Allah and then pray on the Prophet and then make whatever supplication he wishes"
( part of a hadith)
" Umar ibn al khattab said, supplication and prayer are suspended between heaven and earth and none of it rises to Allah until you pray on the prophet" etc....
Sheikh Muhammed yaqoobi, you guys, was/is ma'shallah such an awesome person. Looking at him you can just see the nur on his face and his is an aura of tremendous sakina and piety. I really can't explain it but ma'shallah, it seems as if every single word he conveys to us carries with it such light and has such a gentle and healing quality. He comes from syria and is of a family which has been blessed with many 'ulema....infact, his father was the teacher of sheikh jamal, one of our other teachers....subhanallah, he would do the aqeeda and shifa sessions and the whole while, he'd have the tasbeeh in his hands....ma'shallah what a humbling experience it was to witness first hand the adab of all of our shuyukh...how much they taught by just their adab with us and amongst themselves, may Allah subhana wa ta'ala reward them with abundunt good!.....anyway, when we came to this section, sheikh muhammed yaqoobi gave us the following naseeha: (PLEASE NOTE:this is my own understanding of what he said, and is NOT a direct quote):
There are many times in our lives when we make du'as to Allah subhana wa ta'ala and find that they seem to remain "unanswered"....at other times, we start to feel this almost leaden sense of helplessness, as if there is no one in the world we can possibly turn to. When in such a state, it is altogether too easy to sit there and feel as if Allah subhana wa ta'ala doesn't hear us or has "abandoned" us...we feel so very alone....but when we make du'as they ARE all answered but in 3 different ways: 1) we make a du'a and we get exactly what we ask for...this, according sheikh yaqoobi is "the most naive way"....i guess he means in terms of our approach towards how a du'a is supposed to be answered 2) we dont get what we ask for but Allah subhana wa ta'ala averts a calamity from us instead, in porportion to the magnitude of what we had wanted....so if you ask for something small, He, subhana wa ta'ala, averts a small calamity from you instead...alhumdulillah what rahma!...and 3) ( and this one made me cry you guys) If you are among the blessedly fortunate people whom He loves ( can you imagine what that'd be like you guys?...to be loved by ALLAH subhana wa ta'ala???subhanallah may we be of them, ameen) then because He loves you so much, He doesnt answer your du'a in this life but He hides the treasures of these du'as for you till Qiyama when you actually get them, as if being given gifts..from Him! ......when sheikh yaqoobi told us this i thought of all those times when i had imagined that my own du'as had remained unanswered and felt oh so ashamed to think that I would behave thus when, in actuality, the whole while Allah subhana wa ta'ala had been showering me with His rahma...imagine what ingratitude it was to sit there and feel as if you weren't heard when you really were...how right Allah Subhana wa ta'ala is when He states in the Qur'an that man is an ungrateful servant......oh how merciful He is to us and look at how we ,His servants, behave towards Him, may Allah subhana wa ta'ala forgive us.....i wanted to share this with you to remind you to please just be thankful because even though you may not see the myriad of ways in which He watches over you and loves you, be assured, He does, for real....and about feeling helpless and alone, this, according to sheikh yaqoobi, is not a bad thing at all because when you feel as if there is no one on earth who can help you, you realize that the only being you can rely on is Allah subhana wa ta'ala...thus, if Allah subhana wa ta'ala loves you, He makes you experience such a state to teach you to rely upon Him and to help you come closer to Him....so next time any of you feel sad or feel as if you are alone, please dont feel as if you are caught in the depths of despair because your hardship and your pain is all a means for you to come closer to Allah subhana wa ta'ala.....perhaps it is Allah subhana wa ta'ala's way of telling you that He loves you and subhanallah, what sadness can there be in that?...in our aqeedah session we were told that man has a higher makkam then the angels because of the fact that we do have takleef and must undergoe hardships...the angels worship as part of their nature where as we must constantly struggle and strive..thus, the very pain and sorrow and harships we go through all serve to make us more honored in the sight of Allah subhana wa ta'ala and are a means for us to be loved by Him......so dont bemoan your trials, they truly are blessings in disguise..insha'allah may these words comfort you and bring you solace, ameen. wassallam,
p.s TIMES WHEN DU'AS ARE ANSWERED: